Today makes a year since you passed and it never really gets any easier. I know you're still here in one way or another, but believe that I always wish we could just go grab one last pitcher, or even just split a sixer and a pizza at my place while sharing music.
You are truly one of my best and life-long friends. They really took the closest one to me.
I was talking to a common and great friend about a month back, and we were discussing how important it is, and how Jaryd would really want us all to get over and keep stepping. However, like I'm sure many of you can relate with, getting over the loss a life-long friend is never a simple and straight-forward endeavor.
For a while you're okay with it, then mentally you find yourself in a weird spot, and all that strength tends to falter now and again. I'm accepting of that weakness in a way because it ensures that I'll never forget the shining individual that was taken away from all of us.
In the modern world where you really have to questions all your relationships, and who really is and isn't your friend; there was never a doubt here. I always wonder if things would've panned out differently, where we'd be as friends, professional individuals, music lovers, and business partners. We can have a lot of acquaintances, contacts, alliances (strategic or otherwise); but there are very few that you can actually call true friends.
Interesting thing about that is; you don't really pick your friends, life brings them out to you over time. If there is one thing that I can tell you all, is to identify who those quality individuals are in your life, and keep nurture those relationships in the present because tomorrow isn't promised.
While some of our musical tastes were similar, some were vastly different and we were always able to expand each others musical palettes. One of those he put me onto heavily was Ian Pooley.
Taken from his recently released album In Other Words.
It never really gets easier to deal with the loss of someone so close. So many times I've just wanted to call and catch up. Time heals, I suppose.
I came across this 80s-style electro-house tune on my hard drive recently, and thought back to when the original surfaced and I played it for Jaryd. We laughed with the first version. It was cheesy, but that's what made it so great. Here's the equally over-the-top reprise.
I still have some pics from the last time I went to visit The Good Dr. Boros in Key West that I need to post. Those were some great times with some really wonderful people. Stay tuned for imagery.
Here are the recordings of the first tribute show, as promised. The second show wasn't recorded, but we are working on putting together a third show. Watch this space. Shouts to Aaron and Francisco who were in the studio that night, and many thanks to everyone who tuned in and called the station.
Ecstatic to see '07 go, and already sketchy about '08.
What a ride...
At least my set was enjoyable last night, I got to see some great faces out, and we rinsed it out for Jaryd. I hope everyone had a great time and made it home safely.
Always marking the close of the year, Candyland was once again a fantastic event that brought out many old and new faces. It was great to see them all and I look forward to doing it again next year. The vibe was thick, the djs were working it, and the venue was rammed.
We had a moment of silence for Jaryd right before the headliner when one. I knew he was there in the room with us. This one was actually taken at Candyland 2005. Great night.
Although I couldn't be there because I had to play at the same time, the second Jaryd tribute show took place at WVUM 90.5FM, The Voice of the University of Miami from 10p-1a. With friends like Francisco, his girl CV, and his mother Linda in the studio; I'm sure it was just as memorable as the first. As soon as I get the recordings of the first show, I'll make them available.
South Florida's longest-running electronic dance music event goes down tonight in Fort Lauderdale. Historically known from bringing everyone out of the woodworks, I don't expect the 12th year to be any different. I'm looking forward to playing back to back with Chino and Burn for three and a half hours, should be fun.
I remember hitting this one up with Jaryd. It was a yearly thing. This year he'll be there in sprit.
It's been a long weekend of reflection and generally getting right with things. It's great to really connect with family and friends and figure out how to take the next step forward. We can only do our best, and hope know that our friend will be in our hearts forever.
I can only give you the link, because the embed code isn't working. I'll figure out why later, but enjoy the video. "He's the only white one," present company seemed to say, but he's #53, and he makes it look easy. Droopy Nuts got rhythm.
Tonight, right now... actually (sorry about that) we're on the air for my boy, Jaryd, on some tribute madness. Hit wvum.org or tune in to 90.5fm in South Florida as we run it all over the place, for my dog. Special guests, stories, great music, don't sleep.
It's been a long week with a lot of perspective and personal reflection. This particular experience is definitely a first for me. A whole gang of Jaryd's friends and family are getting together tomorrow at Crandon Park, all day BBQ business. Hit me in via e-mail or the comments section of this post for details.
Here's a little something I put Jaryd onto. He introduced me to Ian Pooley, I hit 'em off with the remix!
Below is a link to Jaryd's obit guest book. So many people had so many wonderful things to say about him, and they're all spot on. Head on over and lookit.
JARYD TYLER BOROS, of our hearts and dreams, returned to the harbor of God's embrace December 14, 2007 age twenty-six and in eternity ageless. Love of family, unity, laughter and compassion are his signatures on the memories of all who carry him. Incredibly creative and remarkably talented in expression, he filled our ears with his music, painted our eyes with his art, opened our hearts by his listening and warmed our souls with his kindhearted wit. With a heart of gold, our beautiful Jaryd was filled by love for all. If a friend was in pain, he was there, if someone needed a little extra cash, his pocket was open, if you needed a shoulder to cry on Jaryd was always willing to lend his. He dreamt big, striving to use his creativity to build a life for himself and one day a family. He received his masters in Information Technology from FSU. His passion for design and the websites he created earned him much admiration. His friends are abundant. "They are all such good people", Jaryd would say and the company he kept mirrored the life he lived. Music filled his soul and some of his happiest moments were spent disc jockeying with friends and on the radio Friday nights. He was as passionate about music as he was about art, friends and family. Jaryd knew how much he was loved and felt secure in those bonds. A companion on the path to all, and without judgement, he did not mean to leave us this early. All who love him know he has arrived in a better place. He will be in our hearts forever and the loss will strengthen and inspire the future of our family: "mom" Linda Mendelson, "always like a father to me" George Mendelson, "dad" Bruce Boros and his loving spouse Christina, brothers and sisters "big bubby" Aaron, "remy" Jeremy, Alan and Laura, his soul's complement and true love CV Vidal, and his loving immediate family. A welcoming lighthouse on familiar shore, his radiance brings us safely home in remembrance. Always with a smile, always with a hug.
I also had the opportunity to meet and talk at length with some of his line and chapter brothers last night. Great people who were very close to Jaryd while he was up at FSU and after he returned to Miami. Here is a graphic they drafted up in his memory.
I'm working on getting some of his old mixes together, as well as the song that was played at the chapel service, so I could share them with you. As soon as I can scan the o-bit that appeared in yesterday's Miami Herald, I'll get that up to.
My words aren't coming together like I'd want them to, but whatever, it is what it is.
A tribute graphic one of his co-workers at The Score Group put together. Yesterday was the chapel service, internment, and first day of Shiva. A jarring experience to say the least, but I'm glad I could be there for his family and friends. I was so happy to finally meet Linda and George, despite the circumstances. Wonderful people. I also saw some old faces I hadn't seen in a while. I'll be back there tonight. The phone hasn't stopped ringing.
It never really gets easier to deal with the loss of someone so close. So many times I've just wanted to call and catch up. Time heals, I suppose.
Jaryd Boros
